My Secrets to Convince Even the Most Stubborn People that They are Wrong.
Even if you have all the research that may prove your friend is incorrect, he is still very strong and does not seem to be convinced even by any of your hard pieces of evidence. Instead, he now keeps on poking you too by saying that you are also one of those people who don't want to understand, etc.
So what should you do in this situation and how can you convince him with what you think is correct?
Before we begin, let me tell you that in order for this to work you should be of a good heart and also should have a little strong brain. Sounds Strange? Well, the simple reason behind this is, that the people of this nature think and support the decisions or actions that are practically good for everyone and not like some who can't even tell the difference between good or bad but are too adamant to stay on the point which they make.
So, if your view on persuasion is nothing but looking for a way to control others, then this article is not for you! However, if you aim to support actions that are beneficial to all, then you will be able to learn how to convince others using the most effective techniques that exist.
Let us go through and learn about this art of convincing anyone, also known as persuasion.
Lack of Information
The very first thing which you should do is to be well aware of the positives and negatives about the topic which you are discussing. Because those who do not have access to the facts cannot form a reliable opinion, right?
In this case, the solution would be to inform yourself with research and reports based on the truth and, from there, form a concrete opinion.
Show Respect for Other's Opinions
Remember nobody is obliged to agree with you and each person has the right to his/her own opinions. Learn to respect them. But ask for permission to express your point of view and do it politely.
Start the Discussion in a Friendly Way
Always start the conversation in a friendly tone, highlighting something positive about the interlocutor or the service or product offered by it. Showing aggression from the very beginning will put your friend on the defensive mode and can even generate a counter-attack.
This is the key to success in convincing people. Put yourself in your listener's shoes and understand how he or she would like to be convinced.
The important thing is not what you say, but how you say it.
Dealing with a Stubborn cum Frightened Person
The more frightened a person is about something, the more of his reaction will be based on reflex and less on reason. Therefore in order to convince a stubborn person, the very first step is to be careful not to appear to be yourself as a threat. Instead, first, you should praise your friend by highlighting the positive points of his side of the argument and then add your information a bit later thereby making your counterpoint.
Choosing the Right Time to Start an Argument
Let's suppose after reading all the above, you prepare yourself with all about the best words to persuade someone, but, if you choose the wrong timings to use all of this, then there is no point in knowing what persuasion is as you will fail to convince even the most flexible people.
So make sure that the time for debate is correct, your friend should not already be in a bad mood.
People are more easily convinced after thanking someone, as they feel in debt. So if someone thanks you for something you did, this may be a good time to apply what you learned from above about persuasion. And of course, to have people thanking you for something you need to give first before you even think about receiving.
Human beings, although very different from each other, tend to behave similarly to some situations. Knowing this, you can use this knowledge about the nature of human beings to more easily persuade anyone.